Boundaries

Kindness is one thing; boundaries are another. When we are in balance, we can offer both in earnest.

Whether the boundaries we set are verbal (just say "No"), physical, or energetic, it is important to be clear and firm. Although not all of us can muster up the courage to set obvious boundaries outwardly, we can still have clarity and firmness inwardly, which makes a world of a difference in whether or not others respect them. 

For example, if you feel guilty for setting limits, you will likely experience others testing them and will end up giving in. Yet, by being clear and firm, others will sense them and respectfully honor them without your engagement. And if they don't, your clarity and firmness will be the backbone you need to stay centered as you affirm your stance.

Boundaries may not be easy to set, but with practice they become stronger and  more incorporated in your actions.

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