Trusting Our Choices

Right now you are likely feeling completely split over just about every decision in your life.  Do I do THIS or THAT?  You listen, ponder, analyze and even wait for a sign from the Universe.  Yet, the “answer” is far from clear and confusion reigns with an iron fist!   

As we move closer to Oneness, we find ourselves more confused than ever as we try to find the “right” way to live our lives.  We want to make more conscious choices, listen more carefully to Source, and help, in some way, contribute our gifts and/or services to the betterment of Life.  A beautiful offering; so, why are we utterly confused about how to do this?

Upon agreeing to awaken, we successfully passed the threshold of making more conscious choices.  And, generally speaking, this has been a reward in and of itself.  Thankfully, most of us feel we have been Divinely guided along the way.  Sometimes it was our intuition, other times we prayed for the answers, or maybe a friend or two helped in our decision making processes.  Likely, we used a combination of methods to be really clear about what to do next.  

These days, however, Life seems to be a bit more foggy.  Decisions seem to be demanding our attention and many of them are pretty big ones at that!  Our intuition is on summer vacation, praying has turned into begging for an answer to knock us over the head, and our faithful friends are just as baffled as we are and offer conflicting advice!  For some unsettling reason, we seem to have lost our “guides” and feel we are all alone as we try to make these conscious and important choices.  

Did I mention the importance of breathing?  As you feel the anxiety around all of this, just take a nice, deep breath – and even another one, right here, right now – before reading on.  (Ah, that’s better.)

Well, the good news is, we are not alone!  We still have Divine guidance; and as we awaken to our own Divinity, we are being asked to “fine tune” our inner listening skills and strengthen our trust in ourselves.  And, it is helpful to note, as we release duality “either-or” decisions become much harder to make!  Increasing trust in ourselves includes realizing the perfection of any choice we make and releasing the beliefs around “right” or “wrong” decisions.  Although we may understand this on a deeper level, we always want to do what is “right” anyway!  

As the pendulum swings from the Divine Masculine realm of analysis, logic and linear thinking toward the Divine Feminine realm of intuition, knowing and feeling, our souls are urging us to expand these inborn gifts in ourselves.  We do not have to abandon our tried and true left-brain activities; we do have to nurture the right-brain ones, however, if we want to create more balance in our lives and have an easier time with those looming decisions.  There are a number of ways to cultivate our intuition, creativity and emotional energies including (but not limited to) free-form journaling, dance, music and art; as well as more structured formats such as intuitive skills classes, learning through books, heart-centered group gatherings and numerous healing therapies.  

Trusting ourselves can be a life long pursuit; it can also be highly developed to allow more ease in our lives.  One way to develop any skill is through practice; the more you practice, the faster you develop the skill.  And, it can be very helpful to have a teacher along the way.  Teachers come in all forms: ministers, therapists, parents, friends, spiritual counselors, and life coaches to name a few.  They can also appear as self-help books or other inspirational sources.  Allowing someone to support us can be an empowering step toward self trust.

During this time of rapid expansion, when decisions can often overwhelm us, it is important to be gentle with ourselves.  Here are some simple guidelines to assist us:

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"Trusting Our Choices" was featured in the August/September 2008 printed issue of Balanced Life Magazine.

1. Remember to breathe – take a long, deep breath into your heart center.  Use slow, conscious breathing until you feel more grounded and centered.  The decision you face can then be brought into your heart for evaluation.  
2. Do something creative that inspires you – dance, move, sing, paint, etc.  Find a release for your soul and allow your thoughts to melt into nothingness.  Creative expressions can relax the body and clear the mind.
3. Nurture your emotions and intuition – allow yourself to feel what you feel and know what you know.  Simply notice everything that moves through your emotional body and senses (including that sixth sense!).
4. Seek supportive people – stay in contact with those that inspire and encourage you.  Find people who truly see your gifts and want you to be empowered in yourself, rather than dependent on them or their teachings or advice.
5. Above all else, trust yourself – remember that the choices you make always have something to offer you.  In the realm of Oneness there are no “right” or “wrong” decisions, only opportunities for you to learn to love and trust your own perfection as a spiritual-human being.